"Two Wheels, One Soaring Spirit"

*****************”Is THIS going to be a gift or a burden?”****************

What do I mean by “THIS”?  Read on, you won’t be sorry…

Sometimes you have to just stop and take stock of your life. 9/11 was one of those days.

Last week, a friend of my son was messing around with pills for fun after a party. She died. 16 years old.

Some moments in life shock us into realizing what is important:

1. Gratitude for what you have

2. The people who love you

3. Your health

4. And most of all — what GIFT are you going to give to the world while you still have breath?

For the last year, I have been re-thinking my whole program for men (and for women) around dating. Learning to spark attraction is an essential first step. Yes. Learning to connect with another human being — or rapport — is an essential step. Yes.

But to me, none of those mean anything, ultimately, without taking that third step — which is to learn how to INSPIRE devotion. And that means living an INSPIRATIONAL LIFE.

Sound like too hard a task? Then check this out…

My friend, Sean Stephenson - the “Three Foot Giant.” Sean was supposed to be dead when he was  a baby, stricken with brittle bone disease.   But, against all odds and wheelchair-bound, Sean turns 30 this week, is featured on THE FRONT PAGE OF THE CHICAGO TRIBUNE — and is taping his first TV show out here in LA.

I want you to read the article about Sean and I give the link below. But I want you to focus on what is, to me, the one key line in the article. It’s when his mother asked him, after yet another of his 200 broken bones before he was 18 (!!!) - “Is this going to be a gift or a burden?”

This part is for my men readers…I want you to ask yourself that question about any and all hardships in your life today. And I want you to ask how you can turn any of your burdens into a gift. Not just to yourself, but to all people, certainly to the women in your life — and to the extraordinary woman that you would like to inspire into devotion to you. I’ve met so many guys who get hung up on what they think is their burden. Sean, like so many of the other teachers I bring forward in my The Complete Attractor Series, is a living GIFT to help get us through our sticking points. And break us into more open, happier, more confident and easeful — and more successful lives. Here is the link to the article on Sean:  READ IT HERE …

And then reflect: how can you turn your life into a gift to others? There are few things that will make you happier, and few things that will make you more attractive, naturally, effortlessly, deeply — to the kinds of women you most profoundly desire to bring into your life.

As I work hard to show in all my books and programs, for both men and for women, aim to flow energy OUTWARD. Be the source of good feeling. Don’t draw attention to yourself for the sake of yourself. And whatever it is you want to get, turn it around, and GIVE instead.

Give the thing, the feeling, the quality you’d most like to receive.

It’s what makes a life worth living. It’s a key element in making it… inspirational.

In celebration of Sean’s 30th Birthday, of Sean himself, I urge you to take action, identify what you think is a burden in your life, and see how you can turn it around…

From feeling bad about something in your life, to making someone else feel glad to know you. The way I feel not only glad, but privileged, to count Sean among my closest friends. 

Be sure to get his new book, Get Off Your But!   .  Its not just anybody who gets his forward written by Tony Robbins!

Sometimes you don’t know the affect you are having on others.

The lesson I find in the letter I received below is:  GIVE YOUR GIFT!  

Even if you’re speaking into the void.  Even if it finds ears many months later.  About a year ago, I did a podcast for Personal Life Media based around ideas in Don Miguel Ruiz’s work (The Four Agreements and The Mastery of Love).  Today, it found its way to someone who needed it.

Here’s the note I received today:

Your podcast, “The track of love and the track of fear” is helping me get through a tough time. I met a man online that I thought was going to date me forever, and after 3 months he informed me he was too busy, all the while “finding women to flirt with” on Facebook (so his post stated).  My two grown children spent mother’s day with their father. My 16 year old has not been home in 3 years (she lives with her dad). I found out today that my 18 year old will not graduate from school. I am losing a client that brings in $3000/month due to the auto industry bullshit. My home is in foreclosure. I need love. thanks for listening, Adam.

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I responded to her right away…

Dear G,

Thanks for you note

By THOMAS L. FRIEDMAN

Sometimes the satirical newspaper The Onion is so right on, I cant resist quoting from it. Consider this faux article from June 2005 about Americas addiction to Chinese exports:

Chen Hsien, an employee of Fenghua Ningbo Plastic Works Ltd., a plastics factory that manufactures lightweight household items for Western markets, expressed his disbelief Monday over the sheer amount of [garbage] Americans will buy. Often, when were assigned a new order for, say, salad shooters, I will say to myself, Theres no way that anyone will ever buy these. … One month later, we will receive an order for the same product, but three times the quantity. How can anyone have a need for such useless [garbage]? I hear that Americans can buy anything they want, and I believe it, judging from the things Ive made for them, Chen said. And I also hear that, when they no longer want an item, they simply throw it away. So wasteful and contemptible.”

Lets today step out of the normal boundaries of analysis of our economic crisis and ask a radical question: What if the crisis of 2008 represents something much more fundamental than a deep recession? What if its telling us that the whole growth model we created over the last 50 years is simply unsustainable economically and ecologically and that 2008 was when we hit the wall when Mother Nature and the market both said: No more.

We have created a system for growth that depended on our building more and more stores to sell more and more stuff made in more and more factories in China, powered by more and more coal that would cause more and more climate change but earn China mor and more dollars to buy more and more U.S. T-bills so America would have more and more money to build more and more stores and sell more and more stuff that would employ more and more Chinese …We cant do this anymore.

Today - yes, we have uncertainty. The Citibanks have collapsed. People’s savings have been devastated. Washington is trying to revive an obviously failed system. Republicans - AMAZINGLY - are touting deregulation as a virtue. Let me remind them of a 2nd Century Mishna passage that says more or less that you need a strong government, or people “will run wild like wolves.

Despite the confusion and uncertainty — we have food — although sprayed with toxicity (also amazingly, a commonly accepted reality!). We have iPhones. We have incredible abundance all around. So it ain’t 1933.

And it ain’t 1942.

But it is a time to SERIOUSLY rethink how we… do business as a species.

Rapacious capitalism isn’t going to sustain us (neither will rapacious socialism or communism, for any die-hard reds out there!).

Rapaciousness won’t keep us alive on a planet we love — one that chirps, sqwaks, trills, warbles and burbles (I suppose we can now supply all the “tweets” we need.)

Isolation won’t serve us. And social media is making a change here.

We need to rethink it all.

We need to rethink who is my family? Who is my community? How expansive can I make these categories? How many people can I include in the One? How many species?

All sentient beings, anyone? Mr. Buddha was on to something.

I am haunted by a phrase that came to me while I was immersed in Esmerelda, my faithful hot tub: The Economy of Nurture.

How do we restructure our economies, our buying patterns, our business life, our family life, our eating habits (any fish left in the ocean? Anyone? Anyone?) — to align ourselves with what we TRULY ARE: spiritually yearning beings, craving CONNECTION with nature and each other, and CRAVING a sense of leading a MEANINGFUL as well as a PLEASURABLE life.

Do you have any ideas about this? I am thinking about it daily. I love new horizons, and this is a good time to peer over what’s been to what could be.

I am inpsired by Daniel Pinchbeck and his fledgling Evolver.net, as well as by Satyen Raja and his latest thoughts on building nurturing communities from the ground up.

Let me hear your voice on this. A global crisis is a terrible thing to waste.

Peace, Love, Joy and Cabernet…

Adam

PRAYER FOR PEACE

In the name of the daybreak
and the eyelids of morning
and the wayfaring moon

and the night when it departs,

I swear I will not dishonor

my soul with hatred,
but offer myself humbly
as a guardian of nature,
as a healer of misery,
as a messenger of wonder,
as an architect of peace.

In the name of the sun and its mirrors
and the day that embraces it
and the cloud veils drawn over it
and the uttermost night
and the male and the female
and the plants bursting with seed
and the crowning seasons
of the firefly and the apple,

I will honor all life–
wherever and in whatever form
it may dwell–on Earth my home,
and in the mansions of the stars.

Diane Ackerman

Are we going to rebuild a rapacious old style capitalist system or build a new kind of capitalism that serves both ingenuity AND the common good?

Are we going to fall into food riots or produce organic local cornucopiae?

Bueller?  Bueller?  Anyone?

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